I am afraid we have created a generation that does not know what commitment means. If things are not working then we tend to give up. Marriage is no longer seen as a permanent commitment. In fact, if you are not happy then it is Ok to get out of a marriage. No matter that your kids suffer and odds are the next relationship will not make you happy all of the time either.
Kids have "friends with benefits" which means they can make out whenever they want and not feel the least bit bad about it since it is just sex. I think it is sad that we as married couples have not been honest that all marriages go through hard times. Times of questioning your love for your spouse and maybe even forgetting why you married in the first place. It takes work and it takes commitment even when your feelings are not what they used to be. It is through this time that you can choose to give your marriage and feelings over to the Lord and work through the rough patch or give up. I think those who end up on the other side of working it through will tell you that they grew closer when they allowed themselves to pray for the other person.
Commitment is not based on feelings nor on convenience. Commitment is loyalty that goes beyond the flaws you may see and is a great desire to lift the other person up, even when you don't feel like it. Commitment requires us to be selfless and not selfish. Jesus is that example and we should look at that more often.
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